Home: Leila Rosen—English Teacher and Aesthetic Realism
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Justice Versus Injustice in Men and Women
By Leila Rosen
For the first time in history, Aesthetic Realism explains the deepest
purpose of every personto like the world.
In The Right of Aesthetic Realism
to Be Known subtitled "Justice, Near and Far," Eli Siegel writes:
It can safely be said that every
person...is looking for something called justice: wide, possibly immediate....The
most beautiful thing a person can do is to be interested in justice so much
that his care is a deep cause of his happiness.
However idealistic it may sound, a person not caring enough for justice
cannot be definitely happy.
The reason is that we come from the world, which is, Aesthetic
Realism teaches, the other half of ourselves.
Therefore, justice to the world—to people and things—is the one way to
really like ourselves. But we also, I
have learned, have an opposing purpose—to feel we will take care of ourselves
by doing whatever we please, and justice be damned. To scorn people, defy them, act as if nothing
but ourselves has value, is contempt—and is, Eli Siegel showed "the
beginning of the injustice and pain of the world."
I know with my
own very happy and grateful life how true this is. I learned that my unjust contempt was what
made me lonely, mean, hopeless about the future. I have had the privilege of learning in
consultations, in classes for consultants and consultants-in-training taught by
Eli Siegel and now by Class Chairman Ellen Reiss, how to see people—including
the students in my English classes, the things I meet, the subjects I care for
as having the opposites in them—the same opposites I am trying to put together
in my own life. This education has given
me a heart and mind so much more interested in justice, and a true reason to be
proud.
I. Early Choices
about Justice
As a young girl in
Also, from as
early as I can remember, I was very interested in language and words; I am
grateful to my father for encouraging this as he would often tell me a new word
and what it meant, and ask me to spell it.
In the 7th grade, I loved learning how the sounds of Spanish were like
English, but different, too. I didn't
know it, but I was liking the oneness of sameness and difference, and other
opposites, including those Eli Siegel showed are central in Spanish: force and
tenderness. I especially liked the way
the D is pronounced in Spanish—softer, lighter than in English—as in the word
madrileño, 'a person from
Madrid'. And I liked trying to be exact
about how two words looking alike except for an accent mark, are pronounced differently—changing
where the most forceful syllable will
be: for instance, esta, meaning
'this' and está, 'he is'.
But my
satisfaction in trying to be just to words was utterly opposed to my pleasure
in asserting myself by having power over people. This kind of power, Mr. Siegel explains,
consists of proving to yourself that
this thing that you are using power on...will do as you want it to....To want a
person to do something and not respect that person if he or she consents is
contempt.
With my family, I often had a tone that was excessively tender,
as I tried logically to convince them to do what I wanted. When I was 8, three years older than my
sister and, I thought, infinitely smarter, I remember thinking: "I bet she
thinks a nickel is worth more than a dime because it's bigger." To test my theory, I asked: "If I give
you a nickel, could you give me two dimes?" She did, and I thought she was so
stupid. But despite my handsome profit,
I felt awful: I knew I had been mean and unjust to her. Later, I was unfair to men in a similar way;
I felt clever getting a man to do things for me, while I treated him
scornfully. I found out, after a lot of
pain, that men didn't like being seen this way.
I learned from
Aesthetic Realism that we have an ethical unconscious, and when we are unjust
to people, we often—as a punishment—feel they will hurt us. I thought people would take advantage of me
if I showed they mattered to me, so I tried to act as if nobody did. At a friend's sweet sixteen party, I was
really looking forward to seeing Danny Forrester. I had liked him in the 4th grade, but he
liked Susan, and I felt hurt. Then, we
moved away. Now I thought I had another
chance; but when he greeted me in a very friendly way, I looked at him and
said, "Do I know you?" He was
flustered, and though I had paid him back, I felt like such an idiot, and also
mean; I didn't understand why I had done this.
I felt like a failure in my relations to people.
In a Saturday
General Lesson I had the honor to attend in February, 1977, Eli Siegel asked me
what I was afraid of. I said,
"People." He asked me,
"Do you think everyone is?"
And he asked, "Do you think fear is related to despising?" "Yes," I answered. I told Mr. Siegel about a recurrent dream in
which I went to the top floor of the apartment building I lived in as a child. There was a door I was not supposed to touch,
because it led to the roof. In the
dream, I opened the door, and found instead a long, dimly-lit hallway. I walked down the hall, hearing my footsteps
echoing. Mr. Siegel asked:
ES: Do
you feel you were trying to make loftiness humdrum? Have you found people dull?
LR: Yes.
ES: Do
you think they are?
And, so kindly, he asked, "Did anybody ever give you
grief?" I told Mr. Siegel several
men had hurt me, and he asked, "Do you think along with wanting them to
mean a lot to you, you wanted them to mean as little as possible?"
LR: Yes.
ES: What,
then, is the best thing here? Aesthetic
Realism has a phrase: the miracle of exactitude. The idea is to see a person exactly as he is.
What I was so fortunate to learn from Eli Siegel that much of my
pain came because I had taken the life out of people, and that seeing them
justly, exactly, with the depth and meaning they truly have, would have me
respect myself is the greatest kindness any person could receive.
The choice for
contempt hurts every person making it, and when someone is in a position to
affect many people, it can affect the course of history. This is true of the woman I speak of now, who
lived 500 years ago: Isabella, Queen of Spain.
Her life shows the emergent need—which, in our century, Aesthetic
Realism can meet in everybody—to see other people justly, exactly as they are.
II. Justice
and Injustice in Isabella of
The two
things for which Queen Isabella is most known arise from the two opposing
desires in her. She supported and
financed the courageous voyages of Christopher Columbus to find the East by
sailing West across the
The unconscious is chiefly about
whether one is going to ...have good will for the world or be contemptuous of
it, whether one is going to try to see the world justly or put it aside and
have power that way.
Isabella's desire to be just showed itself during her 30-year
reign in the fact that she unified
Isabella was
born in April, 1451 to Isabel of Portugal and Juan II, King of Castile and
León—the largest kingdoms in what is now
Her strength and activity of body
matched her prodigious force of mind, and she constantly struck awe in her
potential opponents by her marvellous celerity of movement over desolate
tracts of country..., riding often throughout the night distances that appear
at the present day to be almost incredible.
Like most girls
of
Isabella also
wanted to do good for the people of
On the other
hand, though much detail cannot be given here, she was very cunning and, some
historians believe, participated in or condoned cruel acts in order to win the
crown. Writes Hume, "She never
flinched at inflicting suffering for what she considered necessary ends."
In 1469, she
married Ferdinand, Prince of Aragon and King of Sicily; she was 18 and he a
year younger. Their marriage was mainly
a political one, but the fact that Ferdinand was handsome and energetic,
intelligent and a skillful soldier, affected Isabella very much. On her brother Enrique's death, Isabella was
crowned Queen of Castile and León.
Enrique's reign had left the government in shambles, and
endeavored to bind together the
disjointed fragments of the state, to assign to each of its great divisions its
constitutional limits, and, by depressing the aristocracy to its proper level
and elevating the commons, to consolidate the whole under the lawful supremacy
of the crown.
In 1476, she
rode to
One reason I
feel passionately that Aesthetic Realism must be studied by everyone is its
explanation of the hope in people to feel hurt. I learned we can turn a seeming slight into
the victory of contempt for a world we see as wounding us. Aesthetic Realism shows this victory is so
attractive, we can assiduously look for hurts in order to have it, as I
did—but it is cruel, and always makes for self-loathing. In a class for consultants and consultants-in-training,
when I spoke about feeling someone I knew had treated me unfairly, Class
Chairman Ellen Reiss asked me: "Do you think your desire to be hurt by
people is pretty big, and it began very early?"
LR: Yes,
I do.
ER: Do
you think if we're hurt, then we feel we've got a right to do anything? It comes from the feeling that the first
purpose of everyone is to please oneself, not to see the world right....It is a
wonderful way of not having to see any more.
It's the same as putting a crown on your head.
And she continued, so kindly:
The relation of being imperious and being hurt is very interesting...You
are very quick at seeing where injustices come to you, but there have also been
injustices from you. If you were more ready to see that, [you]
would [have] more ease.
I love Ellen Reiss for her good will for my life. Through this discussion, I do have more ease, and I saw more
starkly the ugliness of wanting to be hurt and use that to justify being mean
to the people I care for most, which I regret so much.
As a wife,
Isabella's manner was sometimes like that of a woman in a Long Island
home—described as "meek grandeur"—alternately asserting her
superiority and weakly giving in. Liss
writes:
She could anger [Ferdinand] with her
intransigence when, as happened more than once, exasperated with her counselors
he threatened to leave, and then disarm him by dissolving in tears.
I learned from Aesthetic Realism that both gentleness and
severity can be just—but unless we want to see what each instance deserves, we
may be harsh in the wrong way, or yielding in the wrong way. Isabella's desire to know was inadequate in
crucial ways. Once, when Ferdinand's
army was forced by intolerable heat and poor provisions to retreat from
battle, without waiting for an explanation, Isabella angrily accused them of
cowardice. She is like many women who—as
I had done—can act regal showing how men have hurt them. In what Ferdinand said as he rightly protested,
he sounds like many a man who has been seen unjustly:
I thought that coming back defeated I
would find words of consolation and encouragement from your mouth but you
complain because we have returned whole and with no glory lost? Well, we will certainly have a heavy task to
satisfy you..., my lady, who can never be satisfied by any mortal man.
Evidence that Isabella herself felt she needed more humility was
in her feeling for Catholicism. She
spent a great deal of time in prayer—and there are stories of how, at various
times, she would walk through the streets barefoot. Had this been the only way she used the
Church, her life, and
III. Injustice to
"Life Different from One's Own"
In The Right Of, Eli
Siegel states:
A large injustice is the feeling had
all over the world that a person different from oneself is a reason for anger
and the contempt which soothes anger....The desire...to feel that life
different from one's own is inferior has made for war.
For 800 years, the Moors, North African Muslims, had occupied
parts of the
I speak now of
the most heinous injustice of Isabella's life and one of the most horrible in
history: the formation of the Holy Office, better known as the Spanish
Inquisition. It came from the feeling
Eli Siegel described: that people "different from oneself [are] a reason
for anger and the contempt which soothes anger." The Jews, seen as heretics and impure, could
no longer live safely in
The methods
were cruel and secretive, and suspects—presumed guilty unless proven
innocent—never knew their accusers. They
could confess to practicing Judaism, repent and be "reconciled" to
the Church. To get them to confess, they
were brutally tortured under the eyes of priests—including the infamous
Inquisitor General Tomás de Torquemada.
People were bound with tight ropes that cut into their flesh; hung from
pulleys so that their limbs were dislocated; they were flogged,
dismembered. Those who refused to confess
were burned at the stake. "No one
was spared," writes Nancy Rubin, "old women as well as young pregnant
women, [teenage boys], men into their eighties and nineties." The fact that these were human beings as real
as herself—who, perhaps, loved the same God she said she loved—Isabella would
not think about. "Once having made
the decision," Rubin writes,
she had steeled herself to its
unpleasant consequences. Economic ruin, even the prospect of torturing and
burning heretics, horrible though it was to a usually compassionate woman like
Isabella, was a relatively minor price to pay for the glory of purifying the
church.
"Injustice," writes Eli Siegel,
begins often with the feeling that
you have a right to see what you want to see and disregard...anything which
makes you uncomfortable. This [has]
been a continuing cause of the unkindness, cruelty, and injustice of the world.
Many people in the Catholic Church, including the Pope, were
horrified at the cruelty being inflicted.
Isabella, determined to have in
The Inquisition
lasted for another 300 years. During
Isabella's reign, an estimated 8,800 people were executed; many thousands more
were punished in other ways, and in 1492 an Edict of Expulsion forced all Jews
who refused baptism to leave penniless, never to return. The injustice in this is incalculable. I know, from having been unjust in ways much
more ordinary than these, that a person cannot bear herself for being
cruel. But Isabella’s fight between wanting
to be just and wanting to justify her brutality was fierce. Rubin writes, "She would never allude to
any of these acts as sins." Eli
Siegel explains:
Unjust people have excused themselves
with the thought that they were taking care of themselves. Those who are inclined to be unjust always
make injustice seem to be the rule of the world.
In this same
year, 1492, Isabella showed her greatest desire to be just to the possibilities
of reality when, despite the objections of Ferdinand and many scholars and
advisors, she authorized the voyages of the Genoese navigator Christopher
Columbus across the Ocean Sea. She was
greatly affected by the relation of knowledge and passion in
Yet even here,
Isabella's desire for unjust power interfered with the best thing in her. She had wonder as she learned of the native
peoples and growing things of the Americas—but instead of feeling respect for
their difference was pleasure enough, she wanted to claim new souls for the
church and new lands and wealth for Spain.
The cruel exploitation of the indigenous people of the
Over the next
decade, Isabella, whose physical strength had been so great, grew steadily
weaker—a fact attributed to many personal tragedies, including the deaths of
two of her children, and the misfortunes of two others. However, I believe that the fight in her
between wanting to be fair, and the massive injustice she had committed, wore
her down. Eli Siegel writes,
Man will not be fully human until he
is interested in justice with the great intensity and with the
comprehensiveness which does not wish to miss any of its forms.
I love Mr. Siegel with all my heart for his intense and comprehensive
desire to be just to all reality, and for making it possible, through Aesthetic
Realism, for all people to come, to have the just, happy lives they were born
for.
© 2004
Leila Rosen